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If I Knew Then What I Know Now…

February 20, 2011

I love that expression. It’s the basis for such great movies.

A recent WordPress blog challenge was: What would you tell yourself 10 years ago? I wasn’t going to write on this topic. But then I read a post on Balance Overload and her writing inspired me to think about my own words of wisdom to myself.

Where was I ten years ago (February 2001)?

Bryan and I were engaged and planning a July wedding. We were looking to buy our first condo. And I just started a new job. How “simple” things seemed! So what would I tell my 25-year-old self?

1. Spend within your means and create a budget. I feel as if I’ve wasted years of my life financially. By this, I mean I wish I knew earlier to create a monthly budget. Track expenses. Save money each month. Only spend within my means. And don’t use credit cards. One thing I’ve learned is that money is freedom. With money and no debt comes choice. Ten years later, I do wish I had more choices.

2. Take the cash; forget the wedding. We had a beautiful wedding and I certainly don’t regret getting married. But getting married is very different than a wedding. I do wish we didn’t spend so much on the dress and all the traditional things, and concentrated more on the actual act of marriage.

3. Invest in Apple. NOW. Back in 2001, it really wasn’t that fashionable to own an Apple. This was before iPods, iPhones, and iPads. I would tell my 25-year-old self to take a little money and put it in Apple. You won’t be sorry!

4. Put yourself first and stick up for yourself! I feel like I’m just now realizing how much I have kept my thoughts to myself to avoid conflict and disappointment from others (better now than later). I would tell Young Leah to start putting herself and her feelings first. She’ll be a happier and healthier person down the line.

5. Life isn’t as innocent as you think. I think back to February 2001 and even late summer that year. Things just seemed easy and simple. But little did anyone know that in seven months, the world would change and we’d never be the same again. Enjoy the innocence and don’t take it for granted.

Me and Bryan, February 2001 -- Pardon the picture quality. I was still using a camera with film 10 years ago (and I don't have a scanner 10 years later).

10 Comments leave one →
  1. Megan permalink
    February 20, 2011 10:42 pm

    No kidding! Especially numbers 1 and 2. I wouldn’t have changed my wedding, but could have taken the cash instead. (BTW, nice Feb 2001 pic…taken at said wedding 🙂 )

    • leahsinger permalink
      February 20, 2011 10:54 pm

      I was hoping you’d notice where that photo was taken! It’s the only photo I have of us in February 2001.

  2. February 21, 2011 4:54 am

    Love the post Leah (and thanks for pingback!). I feel like many of the points you make are ones I still need to be making to my current 33-year-old self! And you are so right about what would happen in such a short time. When I wrote my blog and I was thinking about the year, I couldn’t believe that 9/11 hadn’t happened yet… there was a certain type of innocence for sure.

  3. February 21, 2011 8:04 am

    Very wise thoughts.

  4. February 21, 2011 9:14 am

    I’m proud of your #4 suggestion! It’s something I, too, have been working on for 40 some odd years ❤ You go, Big Boo 🙂

  5. February 21, 2011 6:22 pm

    We are on much the same page about many of the points you make, Leah – including the fact that I also was married ten years ago. I TRIED to get my hubby to forego a traditional wedding and simply run away. So our compromise was a small wedding in our own backyard. A less costly alternative, even though it DID rain … in Phoenix … In October, when the almanac predicted .007 inches of rain.

    And yes … how things changed so quickly after 9/11.

    What a great exercise to look back at the differences in our lives over the span of a decade. Thanks for the thought-provoking post!

  6. February 21, 2011 7:50 pm

    I can’t comment on the wedding part , but I am so with you about the innocence. As I grew older people around me are becoming more and more cynical, losing their innocence……

  7. February 22, 2011 5:22 am

    Ha. Three out of Five are related to finances. I’m right there with you. I’d give anything to have known everything back then that I’ve since learned the hard way. But then again, I’m a slow learner. I keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

    Great thoughts!

    • leahsinger permalink
      February 22, 2011 11:23 am

      Wow, that’s a great observation that I hadn’t noticed until now. It makes sense though. The money stuff is really the main area that I wish I’d done better with.

  8. February 23, 2011 7:11 am

    I am enough.

    I think I have finally learned that once I crossed the line to my thirties. I wish I would have known that 10 years ago. I probably would have spent less time trying to be more or better or like others.

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