The decision to adopt a second dog was not easy. In fact, we debated long and hard about whether we wanted to go down that road again.
So many questions Bryan and I pondered over the last few months: Was it too soon after losing Romeo? Do we want another dog or a replacement for him? What if we find one that doesn’t fit into our pack?
But ultimately it came down to this:
Giving a loving and secure home to an animal is something we believe very strongly in. Dogs give so much to us, and ask for very little in return. So we feel that if we have the room, the means and desire, we owe it to a dog who needs a home to provide it.
We started looking for the right match last fall. For our circumstances, finding a second dog was no easy feat! With Casey it was simple: Bryan and I wanted a dog. There was 4-month-old Casey. BOOM … we were a family! We got lucky adopting Romeo too. As long as we found a good match for us – and he got along with Casey – it was a done deal.
But when you’re searching for another dog to go into a well-established house with a 7-year-old kid, 9-year-old dog, and a 6-year-old cat, it’s WAY tougher than you think! Some dogs can’t go with kids. Some can’t go with cats. Some can go with dogs, but not Casey because she’s old and not interested in playing. There were SO MANY factors to think about — and so many set-backs we had after meeting several dogs — that we nearly gave up the idea all-together.
But just about two weeks ago, Bryan found a listing for a dog named Devas at the Helen Woodward Animal Center in San Diego. There was something about this guy’s face that drew us to him, and convinced us we needed to meet him.
Bryan, Sophie, Casey and I piled into the car and drove up to meet Devas. From within his kennel, he walked up to us with his tail waging and smiled. We knew instantly he was the one. Luckily the feeling was confirmed when he met Sophie and then Casey. An hour later (and after several long minutes of him too scared to get into the car), we brought him home.
While we’ve since changed his name to Cody, I have to tell you about how he had a curious name like Devas. This Australian Shepherd mix was a rescue dog. And by rescue, I mean that in the very literal sense. Sadly, Devas was scheduled to be euthanized at a local shelter. As he walked down a long hallway to meet his demise, someone from Helen Woodward spotted him and saved his life. We’re talking minutes here! That’s why they named him Devas, which is “saved” spelled backwards.
Other than that story, we don’t know anything more about his background. We suspect he may have been a street dog. Although he came to us house-trained (yay!), he’s VERY much a puppy. There are clearly areas in which he needs training (hence coming home to find the feet of Sophie’s Anna doll chewed off). But he is eager to please, is motivated (already learned the “sit” command), is a patient boy, and wants nothing more than to be loved and give love.
The rest of the pack is adjusting. Cody is so respectful to Casey, and has shown no aggression toward her at all. In fact, all the poor guy wants to do is play with her, which Casey will have none of. She is not mean, but indifferent. But to be fair, Casey has never been one to get excited for playtime with any canine friend.
The surprise in this equation has been Tess. The minute she caught sight of him, she took off for cover under our bed, where she stayed for the next 24 hours. While she no longer hides under the bed, she has chosen to stay upstairs and avoid the “beast.” We moved her liter box and food upstairs, which is off limits to Cody for the time being. Tess has ventured onto the stairs and is curious about who this guy is, but she hasn’t set foot out of her comfort zone. I was surprised because she’s a cat who has never before shown any fear of dogs or people. I really hope she comes around and rejoins the family, and I hope she’s not sad living her days upstairs away from the backyard and downstairs. But for now, I’ll give her the space she needs. And I’m grateful she continues to sleep with us at night.
I am so grateful we found such a sweet, loving boy to bring into our pack. I love his exuberance, gangly puppy body, and seeing his quirks and personality come out. He brings a new spark of happiness and humor to the house.
I’m forever grateful Cody was saved. And I’m especially thankful he chose us as his home.
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There’s something refreshing about turning the calendar page to a new month. Even more so, a new year. Each year always brings its challenges, joys and surprises. Of course, some months and days are better than others. And some feel like they’ll never end.
While I generally consider myself a positive person (glass is half-full, lessons learned from everything, etc.), if I’m being honest, the first half of 2014 was difficult for me. Much of those feelings of unhappiness had to do with the unexpected loss of our dog and cat. As many of you know from reading this blog and looking at my photos, we consider our pets part of the family. So to say I was heartbroken to lose Romeo, and then Bipp only two months later, is an understatement. When I think of the 2014, this is a large part of what comes to mind.
I was also in a place where, for the first half the year, I didn’t feel I was on solid ground. I found myself taking on projects and doing things for the wrong reasons, and I felt like I disappointed people (and myself) along the way. One of the many lessons I’ve learned as an entrepreneur is you can’t work for the month’s paycheck. You always have to think ahead, build your pipeline, and diversify your work. I hadn’t truly taken the steps to ensure long-term success until 2014.
Things really started coming together for me in the summer months, and by the end of the year, I was back to feeling on solid ground. I’m happy to have ended 2014 in a much better place than where I started it.
One of the reasons I love making these photo collages (below) is it gives me a chance to reflect on all the memories during the year. I noticed quickly that my photos from January through May were quite sparse compared to the later months. And while 2014 conjures up thoughts of sadness, looking at all these photos, I see how much joy and love there was too. It also helped me realize the time we have on earth and with each other is very much a gift worth enjoying.
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The days are escaping me! Every day I tell myself I’m going to sit down and write on my blog. But then life happens — client work, Sophie, family activities — and then it’s been weeks and I haven’t posted. I feel badly about this since I love this little space and all of you who have followed me through the years. I’ve always said that as long I have things to say and a space to write, I plan to keep Leah’s Thoughts alive. So rest assured, I am here! Just not here as much.
Thinking and Doing …
November always feels like a short month with lots going on. I celebrated my 39th birthday in November. And I want to thank you so much for all the lovely comments about my 39 things about me post. Since I posted the 39 things, I’ve come up with more pieces of trivia about myself. Fodder for future posts!
Sophie turned 7-years-old in November. 7, people! I started this blog just after her 2nd birthday! She’s become this little person that I love and admire so much. I need to write about all these feelings and thoughts about her growing up and how motherhood changes so much as they grow.
November also brings Thanksgiving, one of my favorite holidays. It was even better because my sister and her family (two little boys) visited from Iowa. She and I were always close growing up since we are four years apart. I miss having her close to me, especially now that we both have kids. So I cherish the time we do get to spend together. It’s a different feeling to see your little sister — the kid who used to tease me to no end — as a mom (and a great one at that)!
This fall I’ve had the opportunity to teach a marketing and communication class at the Fashion Institute for Design and Merchandising. For nine weeks, I teach second-year fashion students about all-things marketing — web marketing, public relations, advertising, social media, blogging, newspaper and feature story writing, direct mail/email. I never pictured myself as a teacher. And this gig was quite ironic because fashion is something I’m keenly aware I don’t have much of. But I have to say that I really enjoy teaching this class and interacting with the students. I’m so impressed with their writing and how they think. I’ve learned a lot from them, and about myself. I’m so glad I challenged myself with this new endeavor!
I think this photo sums up what I’m reading (or NOT reading). My TBR pile is so big it stretches across my king-sized bed! (In other news: poor cat!)
I’m currently reading The Marriage Plot by Jeffrey Eugenides. I’ve been waiting years to read this book, so when I found a hardback copy at Goodwill for $3, I grabbed it. He also wrote The Virgin Suicides (didn’t read) and Middlesex (loved). I just finished The Secrets She Carried by Barbara Davis. It was a bit predictable, but I enjoyed it.
What am I eating? Thanksgiving leftovers!
Yay for November!
True to their personalities, Casey is looking to please me and Tess could care less what I want.
Sophie’s 7th birthday!
Sophie won an award at school for achievement in science. It was also Halloween day!
There are certain authors I always hope to meet because I love all of their books. Tova Mirvis was one of those writers (The Ladies Auxiliary, The Outside World and Visible City). I was so excited to hear her speak at the San Diego Jewish Books Fair.
So how was your Thanksgiving? Are you ready for the holidays? What are you reading, eating, cooking and doing?
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I turned 39 years old last week. To mark the occasion, I decided to write 39 things about myself. I’ll be honest with you … this was not as easy as I anticipated. I took my quest to the streets (the streets of Facebook) and asked friends to send me questions to answers. These are the answers and a few I’ve little-known facts I’ve added. By the way, the photos are a collection of random snaps I’ve taken over the years and don’t necessarily relate to this post.
1. I’m not a big Target shopper. I know I risk being kicked out of the female/mother race entirely by this statement. I don’t browse shop; I buy with a purpose. Therefore I don’t have an overwhelming desire to spend time in Target. Bryan, on the other hand, loves browsing the aisles of Target. So he’s our designated shopper for that store.
2. I’ve never had a cavity.
3. I’m embarrassed to say that I’m 39 and still bite my nails.
4. I only own eight pairs of shoes. Too many shoes and purses overwhelm me.
5. I am an ISTJ.
6. When I was a kid, I wanted to be a journalist or lawyer when I grew up. I guess I’m where I should be since I am a writer; and while I’m not a lawyer, the majority of my clients are attorneys or their businesses are in the law field.
7. Growing up, I always wanted to be an only child. Although I love my three sisters immensely.
8. The first time I drank was at a Halloween party my sophomore year in college. My friend and I drank Zimas (What were we thinking?!) before going to a party where my freshman crush/boyfriend would be attending with his girlfriend. I haven’t seen that guy since that party 20 years ago.
9. In the fall of 1992 (when I was 17), I volunteered for the Clinton-Gore campaign. It was such an exciting time and I remember feeling like the world was changing and I was a part of something big.
10. The hardest part about being a mom is having very little alone time to recharge. I’m an introvert, which means I NEED quiet time by myself to recharge and function. When you’re a mom – especially to an extroverted daughter – this can be challenging.
11. The best part about being a mom is feeling so blessed and proud to be able to help shape this young person into a functioning human who will do amazing things in life. And I also like having an excuse to trick or treat again on Halloween!
12. Nails on a chalkboard to me is excess noise and clutter. I’m one of those people who can’t have the television on if nobody is watching it.
13. Despite living in San Diego, I don’t like going to the beach. I like looking at the beach. But the sand, lack of shade and no bathrooms make the beach unappealing to me.
14. What do I love about myself? The fact that I am never bored and can always find something to do. Whether it’s reading books and blogs, writing, cooking, or watching all the DVDs in my collection, I can ALWAYS find something to do.
15. I don’t have regrets when it comes to big, life-changing things because I make decisions based on what’s best for me at the time. So when asked what is my biggest regret, it is this: not getting my picture taken with Ina Garten (The Barefoot Contessa) when I met her in person in 2004. This may seem trivial, but I’ve berated myself for years about saying “no thank you” to the photo opp. I keep thinking how I would have framed the picture and hung it in my kitchen.
16. I am most scared of cancer and my own untimely death. And roller-coasters (for fear they will lead to my untimely death).
17. One of my most memorable experiences was interviewing the senior writer/producer for the television show, ER, for my master’s thesis in communication. I got a drive-on reservation to the Warner Bros. studio lot in Burbank.
18. Deciding what my dream vacation would be is a challenge since flying makes me very anxious (see fear of untimely death). I would love to visit Europe one day (Italy and France). But I think I’d also enjoy spending time in a quiet place where I can read, write, sleep, take walks, eat delicious food, and relax.
19. If I could give my 13-year-old self some advice, it would be to avoid using credit cards unless it’s an emergency situation.
20. A quote that changed my perspective was from author Jeannette Walls (The Glass Castle, The Morning Start, Half-Broke Horses) when she described the relationship she has with her mother. She said she doesn’t believe in the expression “forgive and forget,” but instead she “understands.” As she explained, it’s nearly impossible to forget, and sometimes it’s not about forgiveness. But what we can do is understand a person and their behavior. I LOVE THIS!
21. Once Sophie came along, I realized I am best suited for one child for a multitude of reasons. And while so many people try to pressure you to have multiple children, I’ve never regretted the decision to only have one.
22. I am against the death penalty.
23. The best piece of advice I’ve heard is from Suze Orman who said that money gives you choices. I didn’t understand what that meant until my mid-30s, and it’s so true. If you have money you can make changes and choices to improve your life in many ways.
24. My first job was at the local Dairy Queen when I was in high school. My worst job was working as an assistant at a boutique law firm that specialized in construction defect law (I was in college).
25. As a mom to a daughter, there are two things I want to teach Sophie. The first is the importance of being a kind person. There are so many mean kids (and people) in the world. I want her to be kind, but not a pushover. The second thing I will teach her is to be independent and always know how to take care of herself financially.
26. When I cannot sleep, I think up storylines in my head for television characters I like.
27. Some of the happiest times of my life were the three years I lived in the on-campus residence halls at San Diego State University. It was a such an amazing time of freedom, learning, trying new things, and being with friends. It was the only time in my life where I felt anything was possible.
28. The literary character I most admire is Jo March of Little Women. The character I most relate to is Esteben in Thornton Wilder’s The Bridge of San Luis Rey. This is why.
30. The best thing that happened last year was, through the help of an amazing business coach and friend, I was able to find my way back to the Yellow Brick Road where I’m now in a better place professionally, financially and personally.
31. The scariest decision I’ve ever made was making the decision to leave a job I enjoyed and co-workers I loved because I knew it was time to move on. I could have easily stayed in a lucrative, secure job. Yet if I hadn’t made that leap, I wouldn’t be where I am today — owning my own business and in charge of my life on my terms.
33. If I had $1 million, I would pay off credit card debt and student loans, buy a new car, complete all our home-improvement projects, and hire a maid.
34. My favorite piece of jewelry is my wedding ring set. We found it at an antique store and I’ve never seen anything like it. I love it’s simplicity and the fact that it’s not an experience piece from a jewelry store.
35. I can’t stand talking on the phone and rarely answer when it rings. If there was ever a case of, “It’s not you, it’s me,” this would be it.
36. My high school journalism (and American Literature) teacher, Mrs. Edwards, helped mold me into the writer I am today. In tenth grade, I took a journalism class with her where I learned all about newspaper writing. She taught me how to write news stories, features, reviews, OpEds, and calculate column inches. Where I wanted to be a journalist before that class, Mrs. Edwards sealed the deal for me. I spent two more years under her mentorship writing for the high school newspaper. I will never forget the complement she gave me at a year-end awards banquet. She said when I first started writing for her, I “wrote in crayon.” But by the end of the year, I was writing with a pen. Mrs. Edwards gave me that pen, and I thank her for all she did to get me where I am today.
37. My favorite carbohydrate (and also an indulgence) is a warm loaf of chewy sourdough bread with softened butter.
38. I’m celebrating my 40th birthday by saving up to get Lasik eye surgery (because I’m considered legally blind without glasses or contact lenses).
39. In my next 39 years, I hope to write a book (or two) and learn to play the guitar.
Got more questions for me that I didn’t answer? Feel free to leave a comment and I’ll answer!
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