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Say “I Don’t” to the Dress

August 10, 2010

I recently had the pleasure of accompanying my younger sister, Sari, shopping for a wedding dress for her fall 2011 nuptials. Sari looked absolutely beautiful, and her dress of choice is stunning. In fact, I got misty-eyed just looking at her in the gown.

But as I was watching her try on dresses, I couldn’t help but think about my own wedding and the process of buying the coveted dress. And I came to a conclusion. I seriously think if I had to do it all again, I would consider either renting my wedding dress or buying it from a consignment store.

I know, I know. I can hear the gasps. It’s a once-in-a-lifetime day, you say. The dress should be beautiful, special, and original. But thinking about it now, I don’t think I’d spend hundreds of dollars on a dress that you wear for maybe eight hours and then is stuck in a closet or garage for the rest of eternity. And let’s face it. Even if you do – God forbid – end up remarrying, are you really going to use the same dress? Of course not! And what are the odds your daughter will really want to wear your dress?

I just found my wedding budget and it looks like I spent $600 on the dress from David’s Bridal; $200 for accessories (veil, slip, bra, shoes); and $160 on alterations. So almost $1,000 for the entire get-up! And this was 10 years ago! I can’t imagine how much it would be now.

Don’t get me wrong. I loved my dress and it is fun looking back at it in photos. But I’d recommend spending the money on photography or the honeymoon (or an open bar).

So I don’t know. I certainly know this is only one former bride’s opinion, and is certainly not for everyone. Maybe it’s been 10 years and I’m over it. Maybe I’m wiser with age. Maybe I now better understand the value of a dollar (or $1,000). All I know is this is how I feel and that if I had to do it again, I’d say “no” to the expensive dress.

It's all fun and games when it's not your own wedding!

Too bad they didn't have this little number when I got married.

By the way, I recently polled my Facebook friends as to whether I should sell my preserved wedding dress. Here are a few of the responses.

Are you serious? Because I’ve been thinking the same thing.

You’re not going to wear it again? ; )

I’m hanging onto mine for future dress up fun.

Has Sophie seen it? Don’t sell it until you go through this phase with her.

Sophie does make a cute little bride.

What the heck is this thing?

I can't reveal the dress. But doesn't Sari look beautiful?

2 Comments leave one →
  1. Tammy C. permalink
    August 13, 2010 4:19 pm

    I know exactly what you mean. Weddings are a racket.

    That said… I don’t regret buying my dress new. My parents are divorced, and I blame the dress. (OK, not really, but read on…) My mom was the first to wear her dress (divorce) and everyone who borrowed it after ended up divorced. I don’t know how many people it actually was (the list seems to get longer as time goes by). I can say it was at least 3, the only marriage that didn’t end in divorce ended with a suicide.

    The dressed was cursed.

    So… When I got married, I decided that I was not — under any circumstances — taking on someone else’s bad JuJu. It was a new dress or no dress.

    It’s completely impractical, but it doesn’t matter to me. We’re at 8 years and counting. {Knock on wood}

    • leahsinger permalink
      August 13, 2010 5:05 pm

      Okay Tammy. I think you have an exclusion to the rule!

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