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The Sacrifices We Make for Our Children

August 1, 2010

I was recently talking to Bryan about how life changes after having children. Not in the ways you’d expect really. But in the way we suddenly start making sacrifices for our children we never expected to make before.

I’m not talking about major sacrifices like quitting my job (Although lately, I’d hardly consider that a sacrifice). I’m talking about steering the hugely obnoxious shopping cart with the mini car on the front so Sophie can have the steering it through Vons. Do you know how many times I’ve cursed those contraptions as they’ve swerved to hit me in the grocery stores? Many, many times. Before Sophie, I always swore my kid would never ride in that monstrosity and I would not be one of those moms to take up entire aisles with the cart. But here I am now, steering that thing around Vons in my own bliss and for Sophie’s happiness.

Even tonight, I found myself engaging in the art of sacrificing food for my child. Bryan, Sophie and I are enjoying our Pioneer Woman-inspired dinner when Sophie announced she wanted more chicken. I only cooked enough for the three of us, so there chicken seconds were not available tonight. But what did I do? Without even thinking, I gave her mine. Heck, I don’t even give my food to Bryan if we’re running low. But here I was, not even giving it a second thought. Just forked up a piece and put it on her plate.

I remember many years ago going out to dinner with my brother and sister-in-law and my young nephews. One of my nephews wanted some of sister-in-laws appetizer shrimp. Since it was an appetizer, I think she only had three measly pieces. But she gave him that shrimp without a second thought. I remember thinking to myself, There’s no way I’d share my coveted shrimp with my kid! And yet, here I am; years later, happily sacrificing my dinner for Sophie. How times change!

The other thing I swore I’d never give up pre-Sophie was my precious Academy Awards. Oh, I was a fanatic. I had to watch those awards live on television with my ballot and cocktail in hand. Heaven forbid if Bryan tried to switch the channel! This was a yearly ritual for me that I looked forward to during the entire year.

But I remember the first or second Oscar awards after Sophie came along. When she wanted to watch Sesame Street, I caved! I simply set the DVR and happily went about my way. And this year, I didn’t even watch the show! (Maybe because we had no time or money to see any movies; but that’s another post all-together.)

The point is that parenthood changes you and makes you do things you swore you’d never do before having kids. The change is probably for the better; it makes you become a less selfish person. Although one thing I am certain of is that I don’t plan to be driving a minivan anytime soon!

Truth be told, I'd sacrifice anything for this kid!

7 Comments leave one →
  1. August 1, 2010 10:07 pm

    Girl, I am with you on the minivan thing! I refuse…won’t do it. I’ll drive a compact car before owning one of those. I know…..I’m snobby! 😉 I have had a few “never say never” moments, but I am aware of them and can laugh at myself. But some things I have to put my foot down on! Loved this post. XOXO

  2. August 2, 2010 12:55 am

    Beautiful post! Just yesterday since I forgot my wallet,.i buy lunch for my kids, and let myself hungry, so we can have enough money to go home.

  3. August 2, 2010 5:39 am

    LOL, I love that last line. I’ve been driving a minivan for years already because they’re great on gas mileage and the drive-ins are SO much more fun to watch from the back (it does help that our local drive-in does a ten-dollar-per-carload on weekdays, which means I can legally get seven people into the theater on ten bucks for two movies in a row). I already share my food with my mom and fiance. I know my biggest battle is going to be focusing on schoolwork rather than playing with my little one.

  4. Jeannie permalink
    August 2, 2010 8:31 am

    So well put, and at the time I bet you didn’t even give it a second thought. Welcome to motherhood!

  5. Tammy Carpowich permalink
    August 2, 2010 3:59 pm

    Never say, “Never!” The minivan is harder to resist with kid #2. They are just so practical. I may not be cool, but I love my minivan!!

  6. Angela permalink
    August 2, 2010 8:44 pm

    Never say “never”… I said (when I was nurse) I would never marry a doctor, never move to California, and I would never buy a SUV (CUV or not)…Well, there you have it, done all of it…When I saw this minivan slide its doors open, I thought longingly of how easy it would be to park AND get both kids out, infant carrier seat and all….Please, please stop me if I ever get close to buying one, please….

  7. August 3, 2010 4:24 pm

    I love my minivan but NEVER thought I would be driving one. More than the small things we sacrafice (which are important), I think the fact that we do indeed make selfless sacrafices for our children is key. Sacrafice filled with resentment is no sacrafice at all!

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